Not too long ago, I received a call from a young husband on the verge of divorce. He had been married for only a short while, yet long enough to realise that perhaps he had made a mistake.
As he poured out his frustrations, listing the many issues he and his wife were facing, I listened empathetically. But one thought kept crossing my mind: These problems could have been avoided if the right questions had been asked before marriage.
Some of the challenges he described were the result of a lack of marriage education—avoidable mistakes that could have been prevented with proper preparation. (This is exactly why we created the Marriage Crash Course—so couples can start their journey with the right knowledge. Access it here.)
But not all of their problems were fixable through education. Some were rooted in deeper incompatibilities—differences in personality, temperament, and most importantly, mindset.
He expressed frustration over what he called his wife’s “feminist mindset,” something he hadn’t noticed before marriage. He also felt betrayed upon discovering things she had not disclosed beforehand. These weren’t minor disagreements; they were fundamental differences that had led to resentment and disillusionment.
At that moment, all I could do was offer him practical guidance on how to navigate his situation. But for those who have yet to marry, this is a cautionary tale.
Too many people walk into marriage unprepared, making the same avoidable mistakes. That’s why we’ve put together a short yet valuable resource outlining the five most common mistakes people make when choosing a spouse.
Don’t make the same mistakes. Click the link below to get the free pdf.
